There’s a strange phenomenon that seems to have overcome an entire generation of adults. That’s the fact that they don’t really feel like adults at all. There was a time when you turned eighteen, and you were seen as an adult, going out there to find a job, get married, and even have kids. Now there are people in their late twenties who still feel like they haven’t quite grasped the notion of what it means to be “a grown-up”. If you’re in this kind of position, it’s okay, don’t panic! This is something a lot of people go through, and there are plenty of ways that you can deal with it. Of course, that doesn’t mean it’s going to be easy. But you can take that as lesson one of being a real adult; most things take work! With that in mind, here are a few things that you can do to start feeling like a genuine grown-up!
Pay your bills
Bills are a scary thing, and most adults would give anything not to have to worry about them. However, unless you happen to get incredibly lucky, that’s never going to happen. However, hiding from your bills and financial responsibilities is a terrible way to go about dealing with them. Make sure that you keep a close eye on your bank account and the moment that any bills arrive on your doorstep, pay them immediately. It’s tempting to try and bury your head in the sand and ignore them, but they’re not going to go away, and trying to pretend that they will is just going to make things worse.
Learn to fix things
Nothing makes you feel less like an adult than ending up with something that’s broken and having no idea how to fix it. Whether it’s a hole in your drywall, a flat tire, or a broken appliance, having to call on someone else can often make you feel pretty inadequate. Now, there are certain occasions where calling on a professional is the best idea no matter what, but if you want to start feeling more like a grown-up, why not learn to fix some things yourself? The first thing to do is to make sure that you have the right tools. Check out these toolbox reviews to see the kinds of things that you should get yourself started with. And don’t worry if you’re not sure where to start, the internet has thousands of DIY tutorials that you can use to learn how to fix just about anything!
Keep up with (and understand) current events
You might not consider yourself someone who particularly cares about world events and politics, but the truth is that politics are going to impact your life whether you care about them or not. It’s a good idea to get informed about your own political opinions and gain an understanding of current events so that you know how these things will impact your life. Not only that but understanding these things will give you a much more nuanced picture of the world, as well as helping you to more effectively push for the kinds of changes that you want to see.
Communicate with people
One of the biggest hurdles that a lot of people have to be able to feel like a real adult is that they simply aren’t equipped to communicate with other people properly. If you’re not able to communicate openly and honestly with the people around you, then you’re never going to be able to create the kinds of relationships and friendships that are so important to adult life. Don’t be afraid to open up to people, to be vulnerable, to tell them how you feel. If someone has done something that upsets you, don’t bottle it up. Calmly discuss it with them and try to resolve things. The number of times that personal relationships could have been saved if people just bothered to talk to each other probably numbers in the millions by now.
If you ever feel as though it doesn’t matter what you do, you’re still stuck at the kid you were a couple of decades ago, don’t worry. Because here’s the big secret that no one tells you about adulthood: everyone feels like that a lot of the time. There really are no such things as “real adults.” Most of us are just feeling our way around, trying to figure things out as we go. Sure, you’ll make a few mistakes here and there along the way, but that’s okay! The important thing is that you never stop trying to grow and improve yourself no matter what.